Teen Dating Violence
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Teen Dating Violence--a subset of intimate partner violence--happens far too often. Knowing the signs (you can find them here or take the quiz above) can help you detect it quickly and seek help for yourself, a child, or a friend!
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What Parents Should Look For:
Your teen apologizes for their partner's behavior and makes excuses for them.
Your teen loses interest in activities that they used to enjoy. They may skip practice, school, etc.
Your teen spends significantly less time with their friends and family. They become more isolated as they spend more time with their partner.
Their partner calls your teen names and puts them down in public.
Their partner acts extremely jealous of others who talk or interact with your teen.
Their partner tells your teen that his/her parents and/or friends don't like their partner.
Their partner controls your teen's behavior, checks-up on them constantly, calls/texts them excessively, and/or demands to know what they're doing.
Your teen casually mentions the violence, then plays it off as a joke.
You see your teen's partner lose control, get angry, strike/break objects, etc.
Your teen has unexplained injuries (i.e. bruises, broken bones). If they have explanations for their injuries, they often don't make sense.
*If you think your teen may be the perpetrator of violence, feel free to call any of the resources below to obtain more information and guidance.
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Health Effects of Violence in Youth:
Experiencing abuse in adolescence can put survivors at higher risk for substance use, eating disorders, risky sexual behavior, and further intimate partner violence.
Teenage girls who have been physically or sexually abused have a 6x increased risk for becoming pregnancy and 2x increased risk for contracting STIs.
Half of youth who have survived both dating violence and rape attempt suicide compared to 12.5% of non-abused girls and 5.4% of non-abused boys.
What you can do if you're experiencing Teen Dating Violence:
Talk to a trusted adult or friend. Keep in mind that if you confide in a teacher or counselor, they may need to report the abuse to someone else.
Call an advocate (like the ones at Helping Hands). We're available 24/7 and are confidential. Check out the bottom of this page for additional confidential resources.
Create a safety plan. Sometimes it's safer to stay in an abusive relationship with a back-up plan than to leave one without one.
Think you might know someone in an abusive relationship? Or want to know what to do in case a sexual assault happens? Click here to learn about being an active bystander.
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Loveisrespect’s purpose is to engage, educate and empower young people to prevent and end abusive relationships.
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The Trevor Project is the leading national organization providing crisis intervention and suicide prevention services to lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer & questioning (LGBTQ) young people under 25.
Helping Hands--a non-profit in Hood River, Oregon--supports all survivors of sexual assault, domestic violence, and/or stalking through safety, shelter, advocacy, education, and outreach. Call us if you have questions, need guidance for yourself or a friend, or just need someone to listen.